True Love Never Fails

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True Love is ...
Counterfeit "love"
Find the right one
Key questions to ask
More questions
Covenant Marriage
Sex and intimacy
Conflict resolution
Justifiable divorce
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Communication Architects

The 200 most important questions to ask.

The reason that more than half of all marriages fail is that most couples whose marriages fail simply did not know everything that they really needed to know about themselves and about each other before they got married.

The tragedy of divorce could be dramatically reduced if people would only ...

  1. Know  all the right questions to ask.
  2. Make certain  to ask and honestly answer all of those crucially important questions (both for themselves and for each other) before getting "involved."
  3. Check references  to confirm that the answers provided are, in fact, trustworthy answers.

We have compiled a list of 200 questions which are crucially important to ask and get answered.   Undoubtedly, there are hundreds more questions that could be asked, but this list is limited to questions which best satisfy this requirement:

How crucial would it be
to know the answer to this question
before entering in to a relationship with someone?

Or, stated another way, one might ask: Is there any question in this list that anyone might reasonably say, "I would not want to know or need to know the answer to this question before permanently committing my life to someone."

Closely examine these 200 questions and you will no doubt agree that it would be imperative to know the answer to each and every one of these questions about someone before entering into marriage with them.

Questions in the True Love Never Fails Guide are divided into three categories:

  •   20   Pre-screening questions
  • 160   In-depth getting-acquainted questions
  •   20   Pre-commitment questions
Ideally   . . .   "Pre-screening" questions should be asked and answered   before  a man and woman ever meet together privately for the first time.

What happens most of the time, though, is that a man and woman are introduced or meet through some "chance" encounter and, if there is some mutually attraction, they end up going out on a date and begin spending time together ... before they know the most important facts that they really need to know about each other. Then, if a close friendship develops, it often becomes almost impossible to ask the kind of tough, probing questions that really should have been asked and answered before they ever got involved together.

How many times have you heard about a man and woman getting "too close too soon" ... and before you know it, someone gets seriously hurt?

Therefore ... a word to the wise:  Use common sense and get answers to all of the "pre-screening" questions as early in a new acquaintance as possible ... at least before you start spending a lot of time with someone and before a rush of emotion overtakes logic and common sense.

As a practical matter, though, keep this in mind, also: It is generally inappropriate and unwise to try to dump too many questions ... even just the first 20 questions ... on anyone too soon, before some level of friendship and mutual interest can be developed.   So, once again, use common sense.

You may be able to determine answers to many of these questions from an intermediary such as a mutual friend, perhaps one of their family members, or someone else who has known then well for many years, rather than asking the questions directly. Just realize that in one way or another, you need to find a way to get the answers you need. Here is another possible approach:

Establish a friendly rapport.   Then, at some point in your conversations ask them if they are familiar with the VSI (Very Selective Introductions) Questionnaire.   If they are, it will be much easier to discuss the relative merits of various questions with them.   If not, encourage them to visit and/or offer to share some information about the VSI Questionnaire with them.

Always ask permission before directly asking personal and probing questions.   The process should never be like an interrogation.   It should only be pursued as a mutually rewarding exercise.

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of the 200 questions in the True Love Never Fails Guide.

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