Closely examine these 200 questions and you will no doubt agree that it would be imperative
to know the answer to each and every one of these questions about someone
before entering into marriage with them. "Pre-screening" questions should
be asked and answered before a man and woman ever meet together privately for the first time.
What happens most of the time, though, is that a man and woman are introduced or meet through some "chance" encounter and, if there is some mutually attraction, they end up going out on a date and begin spending time together ... before they know the most important facts that they really need to know about each other. Then, if a close friendship develops, it often becomes almost impossible to ask the kind of tough, probing questions that really should have been asked and answered before they ever got involved together.
How many times have you heard about a man and woman getting "too close too soon" ... and before you know it, someone gets seriously hurt?
Therefore ... a word to the wise: Use common sense and get answers to all of the "pre-screening" questions as early in a new acquaintance as possible ... at least before you start spending a lot of time with someone and before a rush of emotion overtakes logic and common sense.
As a practical matter, though, keep this in mind, also: It is generally inappropriate and unwise
to try to dump too many questions ... even just the first 20 questions ... on anyone too soon, before some
level of friendship and mutual interest can be developed. So, once again, use common sense.
You may be able to determine answers to many of these questions from an intermediary
such as a mutual friend, perhaps one of their family members, or someone else who has
known then well for many years, rather than asking the questions directly. Just realize that
in one way or another, you need to find a way to get the answers you need.
Here is another possible approach:
Establish a friendly rapport. Then, at some point in your conversations
ask them if they are familiar with
the VSI (Very Selective Introductions)
Questionnaire. If they are, it will be much easier to discuss the relative merits of
various questions with them.
If not, encourage them to visit www.TrueLoveNeverFails.com
and/or offer to share some information about the VSI Questionnaire with them.
Always ask permission before directly asking personal and probing questions. The process
should never be like an interrogation. It should only be pursued as a
mutually rewarding exercise.