True Love Never Fails

Q: What is the mission and purpose of
Q: Are True Love Never Fails seminars really free?   How free are they?
Q: What's the catch? How can you afford to give away this service free?
Q: What are the benefits?
Q: If people should not give out their telephone number, how can they make contact?
Q: How does one go about getting someone to answer all the VSI questions?
Q: Isn't it important to meet someone's family?
Q: Where and how can one find references to check up on someone?
Q: Why aren't the VSI questions available as text so they can be copied?
Q: Why is so much time spent on discussion of websites in the seminar?
Q: Is it really essential to ask so many of the VSI questions before meeting someone?
Q: Isn't it true that a relationship will take a lot of time away from one's career, etc.?
Q: Doesn't putting so much attention on websites detract from just trusting God?
Q: Isn't it more important to trust God and accept being single?
Q: Isn't it true that the only "true love" is God's love and there is no "perfect" marriage?
Q: Isn't it true that the Bible says that all who marry will face many troubles?
Q: Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Q: Why are you doing a single's ministry when you are married?
Q: What makes you an "expert" in this area?
Q: How do you know that this works?
Q: How should one respond to marital unfaithfulness?
Q: How long should people date, "go together," or be engaged before getting married?
Q: How can one determine whether someone would be a good marriage mate and parent?
Q: How can you tell if your partner is falling out of love with you?
Q: Why do you not allow the True Love Never Fails Guide to be copied?
Q: Why do you charge for the True Love Never Fails Guide?
Q: How can I help to promote True Love Never Fails seminars?

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Question: What is the mission and purpose of True Love Never Fails?
Answer: Our mission is to help people avoid the terrible tragedy of divorce in two ways: First, by equipping and helping singles to find "the right one" who will be God's best for them, one with whom they will be as ideally compatible as possible; and second, by encouraging couples to make sure that their relationship is a totally committed covenant marriage in which they continuously grow into an ever-deeper understanding of their mission and purpose in life and ever-more-enthusiastically pursue that mission together.

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Question: Are True Love Never Fails seminars really free?   How free are they?
Answer: Yes, absolutely!   The three-hour True Love Never Fails seminar is completely FREE ... with NO strings attached.   We do not charge any fee for presenting this seminar, and we do not request or accept any honorariums.   For travel to locations more than 50-miles from Phoenix, Arizona, we request that travel expenses be reimbursed and that accomodations be provided. Churches and other sponsoring organizations may elect to charge a seminar fee to defray any local costs of hosting this seminar and for reimbursing travel expenses. But we request that anyone who wishes to attend and cannot afford to pay a fee be invited and encouraged to attend free of charge. For these folks, we will gladly provide a free copy of the True Love Never Fails Guide, also. For all others who attend this seminar, we offer the TLNF Guide and other helpful materials for specially reduced prices.

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Question: What's the catch?   How can you afford to give away this service free?
Answer: True Love Never Fails is a "not-for-profit" Christian ministry, not a money-chasing business.   In addition to the information provided through this website, we also offer "True Love Never Fails seminars FREE to singles groups.   The sponsor of this ministry is Communication Architects, a management consulting firm that publishes a 24-page booklet entitled True Love Never Fails Guide which is sold at the seminar and through this website to provide some revenues to support this ministry.   Click here to buy the book.

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Question: What are the benefits?
Answer: Most single adults have a deeply rooted desire to "find the right one" with whom to build a life together.   However, most singles agree that it can be a very difficult challenge to meet new people ... especially to find new acquaintances and potential friends with whom one may be suitably compatible for a deeper and more intimate life-long relationship.

So, if you are a single adult who would like to find "the right one" with whom to share your life, True Love Never Fails Ministries is dedicated to helping you, as indicated by all the valuable information presented throughout this website free.

If you've read enough and want to get started without further delay, click here to order the True Love Never Fails Guide now.

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Question: How can I communicate my interest in someone if it is unsafe or unwise to give out my telephone number?
Answer: One of the best ways to introduce yourself to others and get to know people safely is to "meet" through a "Personal Introduction" website and exchange email messages using an anonymous email address.   When done correctly, this can be completely safe and secure. It is easy to obtain a free, anonymous email address and it is generally quite safe to give an anonymous email address to anyone. Certainly it is much safer than having your telephone number and a physical address listed in your local telephone directory.

There are also many places on the Internet where you can set up a personal website free, and today, almost every public library has computer terminals with Internet access that are available for public use free of charge.   To protect your privacy, just make sure that you do not include a physical address or a personal telephone number or other identity revealing information on any website that you set up as a personal introduction website.

There are also many so-called "dating" and "matchmaker" services available on the Internet; and, while some of these may offer worthwhile services, be aware that the main interest of most of them is to sell their services to generate revenues and profits for themselves. But some offer free trials and some actually offer totally free services. One example of a totally free service is: You can do a search on the Internet to find others, both free, free trial, and otherwise.

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Question: How does one go about getting answers to all the VSI questions without it seeming like an interrogation?
Answer: Share a copy of VSIQ page 1 and ask: "What do you think about these questions?" Click here to see the first 20 of the 200 questions in the True Love Never Fails Guide.

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Question: Isn't it important to meet someone's family?
Answer: Yes, a lot of questions can be answered by meeting family members. For example, watch how family members communicate with each other and you can often tell if there are grievances in family. If there are, you may risk getting drawn into a family feud. You need to determine if family members will accept you. You need to determine if family members fight among themselves, if there is any mental illness in the family, or possibly other genetic problems children might inherit? By consulting discreetly with family members, you may also be able to learn a great deal about someone's past, if there may have been a police record, if there may be a tolerance for cheating on taxes, and other background information about past employment, temperament, etc.

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Question: Where and how can one find references to check up on someone?
Answer: ... to be completed ...

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Question: Why aren't the VSI questions available as text so they can just be copied and pasted into an email message, so that users would not have to retype them all?
Answer: The first 20 of the 200 VSI questions are available at our website ( in a graphical image form that can be easily copied and/or downloaded and attached to an email message, and one can then refer to the questions by number when writing responses to those questions. We do authorize anyone and everyone to freely copy and distribute the first 20 VSI questions, but only in the pre-printed format in which they are presented, as long as the content and the pre-printed format are not altered in any way. Moreover, keeping the questions in this pre-printed format makes the whole process of presenting and considering the questions much more objective.

There are two reason why we publish all of the VSI questions only in a pre-printed form. The first reason is to preserve and protect the integrity of the material, including the format, sequence, and syntax of the questions. In part, we do it this way to ensure that the material will always be presented in the way that it was originally published and intended to be presented.

The second reason is that the entire content of the True Love Never Fails Guide, of which the VSI Questions are just one part, is copyrighted material and copyright law prohibits the unauthorized copying, alteration, plagiarisation, and/or redistribution of such copyrighted material in any form that is not authorized by the copyright holder. Just imagine, if we provided the questions in a text form, that would undoubtedly facilitate unauthorized and unscrupulous copying and redistribution of the questions in such a way that the integrity of the material would quickly be lost and rapidly proliferated distribution of the material would surely ensue.

Please also understand that True Love Never Fails Ministries is a self-funded ministry in which we freely give away all of our seminar presentations without charging any fees whatsoever; and we also provide the website entirely free of any fees or costs. Sales of the True Love Never Fails Guide is the only source of revenue that we have to defray our expenses in giving away all of these services, so naturally we hope that many people will want to purchase a copy of the True Love Never Fails Guide containing all 200 questions.

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Question: Why is so much time spent on discussion of websites and going through so many website variants and data-collection categories in the seminar?
Answer: Presentation of information about the Internet and about "dating," "matchmaking," and other "relationship"-related websites is actually a relatively small part of the overall seminar; however, it is an extremely important part. The Internet has become a veritable gold-mine of information and opportunities and it represents the largest, most efficient, and most effective way of meeting people and objectively exchanging crucially important information. Our objective, in part, is to demonstrate pitfalls, dangers, deficiencies and positive alternatives, including how to use the Internet safely and wisely, and how to use it to communicate more effectively and also how to use it to check references. Most seminar participants enthusiastically appreciate this part of the seminar; however, as a result of questions like this one which some participants have raised, we are going to rearrange the seminar agenda to put most of the information about the Internet in the third of three parts so that those who are not as interested in that part can opt out after the second break, if they so desire.

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Question: Is it really so essential to ask so many of the VSI questions before meeting someone, rather than just getting the questions answered before dating them?
Answer: How you use the VSI Questionnaire is entirely up to you. It is simply a guide. We have merely suggested that "ideally" it would be better and safer to get answers to as many of the first 20 questions as possible before agreeing to meet for the first time with a complete stranger.

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Question: Isn't it true that getting into a relationship will take a lot of time away from one's career, church service and ministry, and from one's children?
Answer: Yes. Relationships do take time and focus. If one's priorities are more focused on career, ministry, and children -- or anything else -- then it may not be a good choice for someone who holds such things as a higher priority than the kind of relationship that God has described as being joined to, or "cleaving" to, or becoming "one-flesh" with another. God ordained the husband-wife relationship to be closer and more important than any other relationship, except one's relationship to God Himself. So, if that is not the priority that one is willing to give to a marriage relationship, then it would probably be better to not to go down that road.

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Question: Doesn't putting so much attention on website-based introduction services detract from just trusting God to put a Christian together with the right person?
Answer: Of course, trusting in God should always be the first and most important factor in seeking to find the right person with whom to live one's life. Internet websites are merely a tool. However, in order to use any tool wisely, safely, and effectively, one should learn how to use that tool. The three-hour True Love Never Fails seminar focuses almost exclusively on biblically based, foundational issues for most of the first hour and the Internet is hardly mentioned. In the second hour, the main focus is on "being very selective" and the first 20 questions in the VSI Questionnaire. In the third hour, we respond to questions that have been submitted during breaks, discuss some of the other 180 questions in the VSI Questionnaire; and, henceforth we intend to keep most discussion of how to use Internet resources, including introduction and "relationship"-related websites and resources for checking references in the third hour.

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Question: Isn't it more important to just trust God, have faith in him, accept being single, and learn how to become more fulfilled as a single person than to pursue trying to find a mate?
Answer: The Word of God and accompanying Scriptures have made it clear that some are "called" to remain single, but it is God's plan for most men and women to be joined to a mate. Certainly, it is important for singles to be able to accept singleness and be content while they are in that state; yet at the same time, the Scriptures make it very clear that God wants to give every believer the desires of his or her heart, as long as those desires are not out of sync with God's will. Moreover, Jesus very plainly declared that it is entirely appropriate for God's people to be pro-active in the pursuit of whatever they are seeking. For He said: "Ask and you will receive. Seek and you will find. Knock and it will be opened to you."

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Question: Isn't it true that the only "true love" is God's love and that there is no such thing as a "perfect" marriage?
Answer: It certainly is true that God's love is "perfect," ... and we need to remember that He very clearly instructed us to "love one another as I have loved you."  Therefore, God's perfect love is the model of "true love" to which He directed us all to aspire and apply ourselves. Since God is the Creator and Ordainer of marriage as well as the Inventor, Designer, Creator, and Establisher of "true love," surely He would not set before us a challenge that would be impossible to attain.  In Matthew 5:48, Jesus declared to us: "Be perfect even as your Father in heaven is perfect."  Surely, then, the task before us is to trust God and apply ourselves to making marriage as nearly perfect as might be humanly possible.  We should never aspire anything less.

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Question: Isn't it true that the Bible says that all who marry will face many troubles?
Answer: The text to which this question refers is in 1 Corinthians chapter 7. In verse 12 of this chapter, the Apostle Paul said: "to the rest I, not the Lord, speak ..." So, should we conclude that whatever Paul said following this disclaimer should be taken as "Gospel truth" ... or as merely Paul's own opinions? He concludes chapter 7 by stating in verse 40: "But in my judgment ..." so it would seem that Paul is acknowledging that he is, indeed, simply giving his own personal opinion on some matters. No doubt there is value in what Paul says, but one must weigh the difference between Paul's expressions of his opinions and declarative statements that God Himself has made, i.e. "It is not good for man to be alone. I will make a helpmate for him ... A man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and they two shall become one flesh" (Genesis 2:18, 24). When Paul says, in v28: "If you have married, you have not sinned and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But such will have trouble in the flesh and I [would] spare you [of that]." One might put that in perspective by asking: Is there anyone who has ever lived, married or not, who has not had some kind of "trouble in the flesh" at some time during their life. Marriage is not the cause of trouble, unless one enters into marriage outside of the will of God. The whole point and purpose of the True Love Never Fails seminar and the website is to help conscientious, serious-minded singles to reduce the risk of becoming a victim of a failed marriage and to help them do a better job of being very selective in seeking to find the right one, God's best for them, so that they might be as compatible as possible and thereby avoid as many obstacles in marriage as they might experience without the information, tools, and services that are offered through True Love Never Fails Ministries.

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Question: Is there such a thing as love at first sight?
Answer: There was one particular "love at first sight" relationship in recorded history that was/is, arguably, the single most successful love/marriage relationship in the entire history of mankind.

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Question: Why are you doing a single's ministry when you are married?
Answer: Because we have experienced less than ideal situations in the past and we are now blessed to know what it is like to have as nearly ideal a marriage as one can imagine. So, we are excited to share what we have learned to help others avoid making tragic mistakes that lead to failed marriages.

I was happily married for 23 years when suddenly, with no forewarning, I found myself deserted and single. My wife was married for 23 years when her husband died after a long illness and she found herself single again. We understand that God brought us through an array or experiences that uniquely prepared us to minister to singles. We remember being young and single, and we have experienced our children's adult singleness, and we know what it is like to lose a spouse and be single again.

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Question: What makes you an "expert" in this area?
Answer: While we do not claim the title "expert" for ourselves, there is a definition of that word that perhaps might be considered applicable to us:

"Experts are those who have been taught by experience
and have acquired knowledge and skill by extensive practice ..."

Over the combined total of 110 years that we have lived and 59 years that we have been married, between the two of us we have experienced all of the following (not listed in any particular sequence):

  • a long and happy marriage
  • wonderfully romantic love and marriage
  • the loss of a spouse to death
  • the loss of a spouse by desertion and divorce thrust upon us against our will
  • the trauma resulting from non-disclosure of crucial facts prior to marriage
  • the pain of marital unfaithfulness by a spouse
  • the devastation and lingering agony of rejection
  • the loneliness of being without a mate after a happy and satisfying marriage
  • the frustration of being single and feeling ostracized in a world seemingly oriented primarily to married couples
  • the difficulty of finding and meeting suitable new friends after becoming single-again
  • the excitement of a new, mature love and satisfying marriage
    to an ideally compatible mate
  • the comfort and satisfaction in sharing mutually trustworthy implicit trust.

However, experience alone is not always a perfect teacher.  Too many fail to learn from experience and end up repeating over and over the same mistakes that others or even that they themselves have previously made.

As a management consultant for more than 30-years, my academic and professional background involved researching and analyzing problems to discover the root of those problems and develop practical solutions for them.  Therefore, when my 23-year marriage ended abruptly with no forewarning and no rational explanation, I was devastated ... but also determined to thoroughly study the problem to understand what had gone wrong and perhaps develop practical solutions that might prevent or at least reduce the risk of failed marriages.

We believe that we have found the key. Try it and judge for yourself.

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Question: How do you know that this works?
Answer: The True Love Never Fails seminar questionnaire is not an absolute guarantee of attaining a successful marriage, but we are confident that using it it will significantly reduce the risk of experiencing a tragic relationship disaster. It worked for us, and we have received testimonials from others who have told us that it has been very helpful for them.

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Question: How should one respond to marital unfaithfulness?
From an actual case scenario: What should a wife do if a husband cheated on her and the wife tried to forgive him, but the wife always had doubts about her husband, wondering if he might be continuing to call the woman with whom he had an affair? The wife suffers so much, but she loves the husband very much, and she wants to follow the Bible, believes that divorce is not an option, but believes that she should forgive and seek reconciliation with her husband.  However, the wife does not feel full sincerity of repentance from the husband, but others feel it.  What should the wife do?  Also, the wife doesn't think that she can handle the separation.

Response: Certainly, marital unfaithfulness of any kind is a terrible tragedy that causes horrendous pain and suffering.

However, it is important to understand that God loves you and He always wants the very best for you.

Also, consider the fact that great tragedies that are thrust upon us in our lives often draw us ever closer to God, and if we do look to Him and begin to really trust Him and seek His leading, inevitably He will lead us to a far better life in the future than anything we have ever known in the past.

Whenever one experiences disappointment, it is always helpful to invest some time reading and meditating on God's promises, for example in Isaiah 40:31 and Isaiah 41:10.  Know that God wants to heal the broken hearted. (see Luke 4:18)

Understand that the Bible provides very clear guidelines regarding how a victim of marital unfaithfulness ought to respond in every situation.

So, what should a wife do if a husband cheated on her and the wife tried to forgive him, but the wife always had doubts about her husband, wondering if he might be continuing to call the woman with whom he had an affair?

The Word of God is very clear that it is God's will for each and every one of us that we should always have a forgiving heart and attitude toward everyone who may have wronged us in any way, in every situation, including in marital infidelity.

When Peter asked Jesus how often we ought to forgive someone who has sinned against us, asking "until seven times?"  Jesus replied, "I do not say to you until seven times, but until seventy times seven." (Matthew 18:22) We do not need to concern ourselves about whether that statement is to be taken literally (490 times) or illustratively.  The point is clear.  For in another place, Jesus also said: "If you forgive others for their trespasses, then your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others for their trespasses, then neither will your Father forgive your trespasses." (Matthew 6:14-15).

And what if a wife has always had doubts about her husband ... wondering if he might be unfaithful again.

While it is always right to be forgiving of others' errors, one must still be guarded and careful to place trust only in those who are trustworthy.  If someone has violated your trust, then it is common sense to be guarded and cautious until you can determine that they have learned a lesson and they have a sincerely repentant heart not only to you, but first and foremost to the Lord God, and that they have a genuine and sincere desire and determination to not continue or fall back into sin.

Make sure that anyone you have forgiven is trustworthy to have you place your trust in them once again.  In other words, forgive those who may have wronged you and do not harbor any anger or bitterness against them; but at the same time, make certain that they have recognized and acknowledged the wrongness of their infidelity and that they have genuinely repented of that wrongdoing and have a genuine and sincere desire and commitment to never again repeat such a grievous wrongdoing as that before you "take them back."

There is no contradiction here.  You can and must forgive, but then you still have a separate decision to make as to whether or not to accept them back into your intimate trust again.  "Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers."  (2 Corinthians 6:14)  If anyone is not trustworthy, then they are not a genuine believer in and follower of the Lord God and it is wise to avoid becoming "yoked" with such a one.  You can and should forgive them, but don't allow yourself to become "entangled" with them again.

Of course, God hates divorce (the "putting away" of a marriage mate, Malachi 2:16) and in all situations His wise counsel is for reconciliation and restoration wherever it may be possible (cf Matthew 5:24, Romans 3:25, 1 Corinthians 7:11).

And yet, He has made three provisions for terminating marriage if reconciliation and restoration is impossible:

(1) fornication (Matthew 5:32)
(2) desertion (1 Corinthians 7:15), and
(3) excommunication (1 Corinthians 5:13).  Each of these requires very clear discernment and understanding and ought never to be acted upon by anyone independent of wise counsel.

As long as you follow the Bible's clear guidelines ... and this is definitely a time that you should spend much time immersing yourself in the Word of God, both for comfort and to gain a clear understanding of the Lord's leading for your life ... then you can be confident that the Holy Spirit will comfort you and bring correct understanding to you.

Divorce is always a terrible option. It is far better to forgive and seek reconciliation.

Yet the Bible does make the three provisions for divorce described above, under those very specific conditions.  Only through prayer, with the clear prompting of the Holy Spirit, and confirmed by godly counsel can you make such a difficult decision ... but God will never leave you nor forsake you and He will give you comfort and confidence to make the right decision.

If you do not feel complete sincerity of repentance from an unfaithful spouse, but others feel it; then it is imperative that you yourself come to a point that you have absolute confidence in a complete sincerity of repentance by your mate, or else you should wait until the Holy Spirit clearly gives you unqualified confidence that is true before you should ever get back together with a spouse who has been unfaithful. Do not take foolish chances.

There is comfort in many counselors and if many godly counselors (make sure they truly are "godly" counselors, and not just well meaning friends) can assure you that, indeed, your spouse is genuinely repentant and restored as a faithful and trustworthy believer, then the Holy Spirit will also give you that confidence.

Finally, if you are worried that you do not feel you can handle a time of separation, just remember: If you will truly and totally trust in God, then He will be the supplier of everything that you need, including confidence to be able to handle a separation until the time should be right for you to be rejoined with your spouse.

Until then, what should you do?  Do this:
(1) First and foremost, immerse yourself in the Word of God;
(2) Pray earnestly and wait for the clear prompting of the Holy Spirit;
    (You may also need to seek godly counsel to pray with you)
(3) Live your life responsibly and do not take foolish chances.
    (When in doubt, leave it out.  Do not rush to do anything
    if your inner voice is raising red flags to caution you.)

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Question: How long should people date, "go together," and/or be engaged before getting married? Is a longer courtship generally safer and "healthier"?
Answer: There is no set length of time that is right for every couple.

It is not necessarily true that a longer courtship will always be safer.

The major premise and emphasis of the True Love Never Fails Seminar and Very Selective Introductions Questionnaire is to make certain that you "ask all the right questions" and be sure to have a very thorough exchange of all crucial information.

If either or both spouses-to-be have children by a previous marriage (especially younger children), then that introduces a major additional consideration because it is particularly important to carefully consider children's and of all of a couple's family members' receptiveness and acceptance and "readiness" for any couple's marriage.

While a "longer courtship" may be "healthier" and more advisable in some or perhaps many instances ... the crucial consideration is not really length of time, but the thoroughness of thinking through and working through every imaginable consideration. That is what the VSIQuestionnaire is all about.

Many of the more than half of all marriages that do fail are marriages between people who had known each other for a very long time -- many having had long, even multi-year-long engagements. The tragic fact is that in spite of how long a time some couples may have known each other before they married, subsequent developments make it painfully clear that many never did get "on the same page" on many crucially important issues.

We have had people (including couples who had long pre-marital relationships and long marriages) tell us that even after having been together for many years, they had still never "dealt with" or "come to grips with" many of the issues that are brought to light in the VSIQuestionnaire.

Now this questionnaire is not fool-proof by any means ... and it is certainly secondary to the matter of each person getting "right" with God as an indispensable pre-requisite to a completely satisfactory marriage.

However, when you review the VSIQuestionnaire, we believe that you will agree that it would be highly unlikely that any couple who thoroughly and honestly answers all 200 of the questions in that questionnaire for each other would not know each other well enough to make an intelligent, well-considered decision regarding their suitability for each other and for marriage.

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Question: How can one determine whether someone would be a good marriage mate and parent? Are there some men and women who should never marry because they would just not be good marriage mates?
Answer: It definitely is crucially important for any serious minded person to be able to determine whether anyone of the opposite sex would be a good spouse and parent. No doubt there are many people, both men and women, who are very poorly suited for marriage and should not marry unless and until they get themselves squared away -- that is to say -- right with God and also right in knowing themselves and right in simply knowing how to behave themselves properly (in a Christ-like way) toward others.

Marriage does not need to be all that difficult ... IF ... every husband and wife would simply be nice to each other.

Sadly, however, the sin nature causes people (before they are transformed as genuine believers in and followers of Jesus Christ as the Lord of their lives, and sometimes even after) to be very self-centered, self-focused, and self-gratification seeking. Consequently, people in that state are more focused on what they can get out of any prospective "relationship" than what they can give to it.

Three keys to finding someone who would be a "good" wife or husband or parent are to find someone who is: (1) a sincere believer, (2) simply a "nice" -- gentle, kind, non-self-centered person, and (3) someone with whom one is as compatible as possible. The more compatible any two people are, in every area of consideration, the fewer problems they will have.

There is a book that spells out what qualities make for a good wife or husband or parent has already been written. The Word of God and accompanying Scriptures plainly spell it out. Those qualities are concisely summarized on the back cover of the True Love Never Fails Guide.

If any man and woman will use all of the questions in the VSI-Questionnaire ... and if they will be diligent in asking and thoroughly answering all those questions for each other ... and then listen very, very closely to every answer, it should not be terribly difficult to discover the presence -- or absence -- of the qualities that will make someone a good marriage mate.

Almost all of the 200 VSI-Questions have both a "yes" or "no" component and also an "open-ended" component which is designed to draw out a persons "true colors." For anyone to just answer "yes" or "no" to any given question will rarely provide all of the information that is needed. But the second part of each question can do that.

For example: In matters of faith, obviously it is not enough to merely know that someone answers "Yes" to the first part of question #7. But notice that question #7 goes on to ask: "How did becoming a Christian change your life?" How that second part of the question is answered should draw out a much better understanding of how deep and sincere someone's faith is.

Likewise, for example, there are several questions designed to probe just how affectionate and "loving" someone may be -- or not be. And, there are questions designed to determine just how social, gregarious, and outgoing -- or private -- someone may be. And, there are questions designed to discover how one feels about children and what their thoughts are with regard to discipline, etc. I.e. "Have you ever spanked a child?" ... and how do you feel about that, how best to discipline children etc.

If people will simply ask all the right questions, make sure to get trustworthy answers, thoroughly check references, and act responsibly with regard to any red flags that may be revealed, then that should enable those who conscientiously follow this guidance to avoid making tragic mistakes.

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Question: How can you tell if your partner is falling out of love with you?
Answer: The short answer is, there is no such thing as "falling in love" or "falling out of love."   True love is not something that one falls into or falls out of.  The definition of true love is beautifully described in the Bible, in First Corinthians 13:4-8:

"True love patiently suffers long and is kind. True love does not envy. True love does not vaunt itself and is not puffed up. It does not behave shamefully. It does not seek its own way. It is not easily provoked. And it does not think evil. True love does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth. True love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. True love never fails."

At the following web address, you will find an amplified description of the attributes of true love: The Lover's Bible

The very fact that anyone may have this question in their mind indicates doubt and is therefore a potentially serious problem. If you do not know with certainty that your "partner's" love for you is an unshakable, never-to-be-allowed-to-fail, mutual commitment, then it never was true love to begin with.

One of the most important attributes of true love is trust.  There must always be complete, unquestioned, implicit trust between two people who have made the decision to mutually commit themselves to love one another.  If a couple does not have that unqualified trust between one another, then their "love" is not true love, but it is a seriously flawed counterfeit of true love.

Since this question uses the term "partner" instead of "wife" or "husband," that raises a red flag. It is not clear if the person in question is a "spouse" or "marriage partner," or if perhaps the reference is to a "partner" in some other sense.

The answer to this question will be somewhat different, depending on what kind of relationship ... or involvement ... is being referenced.

A partnership is only a relationship if it is a mutually committed marriage relationship.  Otherwise, it is merely an "involvement" of some kind.

In the case of marriage partners, if the marriage was entered into on a correct basis, then both the husband and the wife should and would reasonably and properly be expected to reaffirm their mutual love for each other on a regular basis.  Consistently expressing love for one's spouse is both an obligation and a naturally occurring evidence of true love.

If an "involvement" is something other than a marriage relationship, then that is a totally different situation.

People may fall into and out of >>feeling<< infatuation with someone, but if someone genuinely loves you (and vice-versa) then you will remain committed to them, and they to you, regardless of feelings.

If you have any doubt about your "partner's" love for you, then just point blank ask them about this.  If they skirt the issue or will not give you a clear and direct answer, then that tells you the answer that you need to know very plainly.

If you are married to someone who is unwilling to forthrightly affirm their commitment of love to you, then the only thing that you can do and the thing that you must do is to remain faithful to your marriage commitment to them and go on loving them to the best of your ability and pray that God will enable you to continue to do so.  He will.

If your "partnership" is something other than marriage, and the person with whom you have though that you were "in love" does not reciprocate the same commitment of love to you, then it is long past time for you to remove yourself from that involvement or entanglement and get a copy of "True Love Never Fails -- How to find the right one who will be God's best for you" so you can move forward with your life on the right basis.

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